Before having my son I knew exactly how I was going to raise my children and knew without a doubt in my mind things would go just as planned (yes how crazy was I to think such a thing). I swore my kids would not watch a bunch of tv, not have tv's in their room, no video game systems, I refused to have their rooms filled with useless pricey toys, andI thought it would be great if they didn't take a binky.
Now my son is only 3 months old so obviously some of these things he is too young for still but the other day as he was not satisfied with anything I did. When I sat him down he cried, when I held him he cried, the only time he was happy was when I was changing his diaper or carrying him around and he was cooing and smiling the whole time (most babies hate to have their diaper changed, my son loves it).
I had to get stuff done around the house, so after toting all 20lbs of him around on my hip for a good 45 minutes and my arm about numb I had to put him down. What did I do you ask, I said a silent wish that he took a binky and I turned on the Toy Story movie and laid him on his play mat in front of the tv. Yes he loves watching Toy Story along with Curious George, and Cat in the Hat. Now while I don't think it's ok to try to have your kids sit in front of the tv for hours on end, I don't think there is anything wrong with turning it on so you can gulp down some liquid energy, or grab a couple bites of breakfast, or just get a moment to sit and relax, and I refuse to feel bad about it.
I think as mom's we hold ourselves to high standards. Trying to be everything to everyone. We try to be super mom/wife and after a while I think we have to throw our hands up and surrender to the fact that we are no June Cleaver and there is no need to try to be.
We are mom's and we need a few moments of quiet in our day to keep our sanity, and if that means watching Toy Story every day for 20-30 minutes I am 100% okay with that.
So well said! I am still thinking no video games as long as I can hold out (with my 2 1/2 year old), but being at home with kids makes you be "on" from the time you get up until you go to bed... very hard to stay sane if you don't get a few of those moments for yourself.
ReplyDeleteI love your blog, BTW! I'll be following. ;)
emily